Do you find yourself feeling any—or all—of these?
You always thought love was enough for relationships to thrive, and that they were supposed to just “flow.” You love your partner—you really do. But somehow, your relationship is heading in a direction you didn’t expect. You didn't think relationships were supposed to be this hard.
You've noticed that you and your partner have less fun together, snap at each other more often, hold back telling each other things, don’t hug or touch, and feel misunderstood. At times, you wonder if maybe you're just not as compatible as you originally thought. You’re struggling with what to do about it. Your efforts to connect with your partner are feeling pointless. You try, but you often don't have the energy to reach out. You're feeling overwhelmed and drained.
Couples or sex therapy may be the help you need. We're a group of therapists who love to help couples connect with each other, learn how to compromise and communicate more effectively, create a new culture of appreciation in your relationship, and break out of the rut you're in.
"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."
- Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Learn more about
couples and sex therapy.
Couples therapy can help the two of you reconnect and develop effective ways of communicating. You'll learn how to express your needs clearly and how to respond positively to your partner’s needs. In addition to communication training or problem-solving skills, couples therapy will help the two of you build a bridge of love and acceptance, appreciating what each one brings to the relationship.
All couples therapy includes a discussion of the couple’s sex life as a reflection of their overall functioning. You'll be guided on how to be fulfilled and sexually healthy. If there are more concerning difficulties in the bedroom, sex therapy techniques will be used to overcome them. Sex therapy is talk therapy focused on the intimate feelings, actions, and history of your sex life. Many people are insecure and shy to discuss their sex life. Others are misinformed about human sexuality and what to expect. You'll learn how to develop a warm assertive sexual dialogue with your partner in order to get the love and sex you’ve wanted.
Relationships are central to life. We are born in a relationship and would not have survived if another person hadn't initially spoken for us and fulfilled our needs. As we grow and develop, however, we become more complex beings, and it's not so easy for someone else to recognize what our needs and wants are. When two people are in a romantic relationship for a long time, eventually there are going to be storms. When things get tough, emotional and physical intimacy suffer, and it's hard to feel heard or to listen. Life also presents many transitions (e.g., the birth of a baby, relocation, serious illness, bereavement, a new job) that force couples to review and renegotiate their roles and commitment to each other.
“Love and trust, in the space between what’s said and what’s heard in our life, can make all the difference in the world.”